Affair Recovery Starts With What NOT To Do

Are you accidentally sabotaging your recovery? These 10 critical mistakes are pushing your partner further away and destroying your chance to heal - but they're completely avoidable.

What You'll Learn In This Free Guide

  • The #1 thing you're probably doing right now that's pushing your partner away (and how to stop immediately)

  • How to get the complete transparency you need without triggering defensiveness and shutdowns

  • The hidden reason traditional therapy often makes things worse in the first 90 days

  • What to do instead of obsessing, investigating, or interrogating for hours (this breaks the trauma cycle)

  • How to end contact with the affair partner safely - without creating more drama or resistance

  • Why "talking it through" keeps re-traumatizing both of you (and what high-functioning couples do instead)

  • The mistake that makes your partner shut down completely - even when they want to repair things

  • How to stop the emotional roller coaster that's exhausting both of you

  • What's actually required from both partners if this relationship is going to survive (it's not what you think)

  • The first step toward stabilizing the chaos so real healing can begin

Created by Kelly & Ned Vandiver

RLT-certified affair recovery specialists trained directly by Dr. Terry Real. Over 13 years helping high-performing couples worldwide stop the destructive patterns and rebuild stronger than before.